Let’s Talk about the D word.. Divorce

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Nov 6

Written By Ghost

This is a difficult post to write, but I think it is important to share our human experiences, be more transparent and open about what we have gone through, what we are going through and how we can help or maybe understand and sympathize better with each other.

Earlier this week, I posted a silly reel/tik-tok about being single and looking to date; it was all in good fun but brought up a lot of questions about my personal life that I don't often share.

I don't talk about it often but for those asking why I'm not "scooped" up or "married" or "in a committed relationship," it always shocks me that people are unaware that I was once married. So here’s my story… well part of it.

The hardest part of my marriage ending and me becoming a divorcee?

Telling my family.

Growing up Italian, it was embedded in my brain that divorce was NOT an option. I told my ex-husband when he put a ring on it that if he wanted to give me a ring that divorce was not an option.

Our marriage was far from perfect, and many times I thought about ending it to be a happier human but again, divorce was not an option, and the thought of failing at something terrified me.

We fell into a routine, find a man, buy a house, get a dog, get married and try having kids. However, I really threw a wrench into things when I decided to start NaccFitness. He wasn't happy about the lack of me wanting kids to help create a bomb-ass fitness empire…..he stood by until he couldn't stand by anymore, and he left.

I remember the day it ended, and I can tell you I didn't think, "fuck, I failed," I thought, "did I really just get a blessing to start over at love."

Years of trying, therapy, and not being happy eventually came to a halt and a sigh of relief washed over me the day my ex-husband flew back to his hometown. I was FREE to start over at love.

It's been 5 + years, and I am here to tell you that even though being struck as a divorcee, it might sound ugly, terrifying and awful, but I can assure you that if you're thinking of divorce or are recently divorced, then life gets beautiful when you decide you can start over with your next true love ❤️